Focused Relationship Work
Give the hard conversations more room
Some things are difficult to work through an hour at a time. A couples therapy intensive gives us a full day to stay with what’s happening, rather than stopping just as you’re getting somewhere.
Is a couples intensive right for you?
An intensive may be a good fit if:
You’re deciding whether to stay together or end your relationship
An affair has recently been discovered or disclosed
Your relationship is in crisis and you need help as soon as possible
You have a specific issue you want dedicated time to address
Weekly therapy doesn’t work well with your schedules
Affair Recovery Intensives
Affair recovery intensives when trust is shaken
After an affair is discovered or disclosed, it can become the only thing you think or talk about. Conversations spiral. You’re replaying what happened, wondering what you still don’t know, and trying to figure out if your relationship can survive this.
You may not be sleeping well or concentrating like you normally would. One of you may be desperate for answers and reassurance while the other feels overwhelmed by questions or guilt. It’s difficult to know what to do next without causing more hurt.
An affair recovery intensive gives you dedicated time with an experienced couples therapist when things feel especially raw.
An affair recovery intensive may be a good fit if:
You’re in the early stages of affair recovery and need help with what comes next.
You’re unsure whether you know the full story.
You’re worried about rebuilding trust or another affair happening.
You’re afraid the hurt will always define your relationship.
You’re unsure if the relationship can or should continue.
You want to address what happened without losing sight of the relationship as a whole.
What we’ll focus on
Where you are in affair recovery
Understand what’s happened since the affair came to light and what needs attention now.
The affair and its context
Work through what happened, including further disclosure when needed.
The impact of the affair
Make space for the hurt while building greater openness and accountability.
What repair looks like
Identify what’s needed to begin rebuilding safety and trust in your relationship.
What comes next
You won’t leave an intensive fully healed. Affair recovery takes time, and you rebuild trust over the weeks and months that follow.
By the end of the day, you’ll have a better understanding of the recovery process and how to move through it without causing further hurt. I’ll also send you an affair recovery guide to help you navigate what comes next.
Affair Recovery Guide
There’s a lot to process after an affair, and you don’t have to figure it all out at once. This PDF gives you information to read and return to as you work through recovery.
If conversations are too painful or escalate quickly, read the guide individually and bring your questions to your intensive. If you’re comfortable discussing it together, you can also work through it as a couple.
$29.99 · PDF Download
Discernment Intensives
Discernment Intensives for couples at a crossroads
You’ve been unhappy for a long time, and you’re starting to wonder whether you can keep doing this. One of you may be ready to leave while the other wants to keep trying. Or maybe neither of you knows what you want yet.
You may have spent years caught in the same conflict or growing further apart. Conversations feel loaded, and it can be hard to remember what was good between you in the first place. You may already be separated or wondering if some time apart would help.
A discernment intensive gives you time to step out of the back-and-forth and figure out what you want to do next.
One of you is leaning toward leaving while the other wants to stay.
You’re both uncertain whether you want to continue the relationship.
You’ve been unhappy for a long time (sometimes months, often years) and attempts to fix things haven’t worked.
You’re separated or considering a separation.
You want to understand your options before making a decision about your relationship.
A discernment intensive may be a good fit if:
What we’ll focus on
How your relationship got here
Understand what brought you to this point and the role each of you has played.
Where each of you stands
Explore your concerns, hopes, and what’s influencing how you feel about the relationship.
The paths in front of you
Consider what it would mean to stay as things are, commit to working on the relationship, or separate.
Whether reconciliation feels realistic
Look honestly at what would need to change and if you’re both willing to do that work.
Included with your Intensive
(or available for purchase separately)
Discernment Intensive Resources
You may find these guides most useful after your intensive, when you have a clearer sense of the path ahead. Read them individually or together, depending on what feels right for your relationship.
Recommitment Guide
Deciding to recommit raises a new question: What needs to change for the relationship to work? This guide gives you space to consider what moving forward together will require.
$29.99 · PDF Download
Separation Guide
Choosing to separate comes with its own set of difficult decisions. This guide helps you think through what comes next and how you want to approach the process.
$29.99 · PDF Download
What to Expect
Your intensive, from start to finish
What an intensive looks like:
Start with a consultation
We’ll talk about what’s happening in your relationship and whether a couples therapy intensive is the right fit.
Prepare for your intensive
You’ll complete detailed intake forms and a questionnaire ahead of time so we can identify your goals and get started right away.
Spend the day working together
We’ll start by building a better understanding of what’s happening between you. From there, I’ll help you work through the conversations or decisions that brought you here.
Leave with a plan
We’ll cover what progress can realistically look like after the intensive. You’ll leave knowing how to continue the work from there.
Frequently asked questions about couples intensives
A full-day intensive runs from either 9 AM–4 PM or 10 AM–5 PM, with breaks throughout the day. You’ll have about six hours of clinical time together. Not ready for a full day? You can also split your intensive into two three-hour sessions on separate days.
Both. Virtual intensives are typically held on Wednesdays and cost $3,600. In-person intensives are held on Saturdays at my Lexington, MA office and cost $4,200.
If a full-day intensive doesn’t work with your schedule, you can split the intensive into two three-hour sessions. This gives you the same focused time in a format that may fit more easily into your schedule.
Intensives are typically booked one at a time. For many couples, one intensive is enough to address the issue they want to work on. Some couples choose to schedule additional intensive work.
Weekly couples therapy gives us consistent time to work on your relationship over a longer period. An intensive gives us several hours together at once, which can be helpful when you’re facing an urgent decision or crisis, or have a focused issue you want to address in a shorter period of time.
Discernment intensives are designed for couples questioning whether to stay together. Affair recovery intensives focus on the aftermath of an affair. If your situation doesn’t fit neatly into either category, let’s discuss your specific needs during the consultation.
I know how important it is to start this work as soon as possible, and I make it a priority to get couples in quickly. I can typically schedule an intensive within three weeks, depending on our shared availability.
You’ll complete intake forms and a detailed questionnaire beforehand. I’ll review them ahead of time so we can go into the day knowing what you want to focus on. I’ll also send you optional resources to read.
That depends on what comes out of our work together. We’ll end by discussing your next steps and any recommendations for continued couples therapy, individual therapy, or other resources. You’ll also receive a guide specific to your intensive.
Insurance typically does not reimburse for intensives. The full fee is charged after your intensive.
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